Who is stopping you from taking the leap?
Ginny E-P takes the leap into full time travel, remote working and adventure- pushing the dogma of other people’s thinking out to pursue her life as a full time traveller on the road.
Mexico was a new venture and a fresh new look at my world. A promise was made to visit 10 years earlier to my former self, a different person that sat here now, but time changes you. It just seemed ridiculous to have waited so long to arrive here.
Traveling to the Yucatán Peninsula of Mexico solo as a woman in her 40s is an achievement in itself. Acknowledgement and celebration of this was key to moving forward at the beginning of my 3 month stay in Mexico as a digital nomad.
Hacienda San Lorenzo Oxman, Mexico has a Cenote that is magnificent; it is located near Valladolid which echoes the colonial past of Spaniard rule. The town hacienda dating from 1746 has resplendent grounds.
This part of Mexico is well known in the digital nomad expat community, with many coming to live in the international hubs. They are attracted by the lifestyle in the Riviera Maya strip of the Caribbean shoreline. The state of Quintana Roo, is known for its palm-lined beaches and coral reefs. This was a day off though, and I headed out to explore inland, definitely a testament to the lifestyle of a digital nomad. The things that you do on your day off are varied, and for me were always beyond what I would have imagined were possible.
The Yucatán Peninsula of Mexico is heavily populated by cenotes; anyone who visits is guaranteed to marvel at the outstanding stunning creations, with their diverse rock formations. Many a visitor look in awe at the long Ficus trees, whose roots dangle from ground level to the subterranean water below.
The roots reach 30 meters into the massive depths of the profundity of the cenote. Stalactites and stalagmites that form inside the cenotes enrich the internal structures. Many are extremely deep but are open so you can see the sky.
Sunlight intermittently flickers in the space and this is a magical environment to take a break from the intense Mexican heat. I want to take the leap and follow the other travellers who are clasping the rope swing into the deep cool iridescent turquoise crisp water below. It should be irresistible, but actually it is a scary prospect. Somewhere along the way confidence approaching my midlife altered without noticing. Often life is shaped by others and without question it is accepted: compliance is a strong force.
These cenotes are natural pits, or sinkholes, which result from the collapse of limestone bedrock that exposes groundwater underneath. They were sometimes used by the ancient Maya for sacrificial offerings, but I wasn’t going to offer myself to the waters. My life at that time could be construed to be similar to this cenote. A sinkhole, where the collapse of a long term relationship exposed my ‘groundwater’.
Yes we all make sacrifices, or some may call them compromises, but no matter what you call them there is an element of giving something up. That something in return may be limiting or enriching. Digital nomadism is a lifestyle choice that didn’t really suit my partner. We were opposites. She was risk averse and I embraced risk. If someone in your life is holding you back it is possibly easier to stay rather than moving on. Life coaching and by being a coach myself I was lucky to be able to have some insight to address the situation.
Visitors to the cenote approach the rock jutting out, and they are on a rope at the water’s edge without any hesitation. They plunge in the waters below and a magnificent splash follows. If I just could summon the courage. There was a massive temptation to do so. The 15 meter drop is just too much. Many are taking the leap to fall and reach the water. It seems a relationship can take a lot out of you. The break up did. Mexico was my escape, a chance to recover, and find the Ginny E-P a single lady now a free spirit, solo traveller, digital nomad and adventurer again.
Not jumping into that ‘cenote’ at the Hacienda perhaps mirrors the journey that many of us take: a waiting game too easily imposed by our desire for safety, waiting for that moment, ‘the right time to jump’-When is the right time? When will it be the right time?
This results in procrastinating not fulfilling then delaying a dream for tomorrow or the next time. The cycle cycles on and before you know it is days, months, and years later. Procrastinating for a while, possibly following up with a bit of regret that the action was not taken when it could have been, and then some procrastination kicks in again.
The key now in the Covid 19 crisis is to step up to change. Make a decision, and then to follow through. Now is not the time to procrastinate but work on those projects that you put off. It was for me all about, and still is, following through with the concept of feeling the fear, and doing it anyway. I would have never achieved my dream of being a digital nomad had I given in to the dogma and the limiting beliefs of others.
Now while sat in Wales in lockdown due to the outbreak of Covid 19, these actions I took are powerful. I look back on those first months of digital nomad life not as some beautiful idyllic honeymoon with my single self, but a challenging time of change in Mexico. However when I strip them back and look at the importance of evaluating a relationship that was emotionally draining, the tide of change was essential: a must.
A memory pops up as I look through my whatsapp. It was when I was sitting for a ‘time out’ in the cafe in Tulum, Mexico after a heated discussion in the car with my ex. We were trying to repatriate the good times but the bid to do this and maintain any healthy contact or build a new type of relationship had failed.
She came to Mexico to travel with me but in the end she went off by herself, rather than together, as planned.
I remember thinking about the core value of freedom and the amount of stress the situation caused when one person’s values don’t align with another. Being authentically me and not living for the fear of others was my new goal. I live with no regrets as I had to stand firm in supporting my decision to move from London and pack up everything to travel the world. I took action, made a decision and this personal change happened. It is essential to take action.
On the last day at a Cenote in Tulum Riviera Maya Mexico. I jumped with earnest enthusiasm. You can’t be fearful forever: right?
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